6 Ways You May Have Misunderstood or Mis-practised Buddhism

Buddhism is meant to reduce—and even end—suffering. Yet, its teachings have been misunderstood and mis-practised as coping mechanisms to avoid facing suffering, thereby preventing its ending. Here are some insidious ways this can happen:

1. Focusing on Making Merit for a Better Next Life

Some Buddhists believe they can’t change their present life unhappiness because it’s the result of past karma. They think their only hope is to accumulate as much merit as possible in this life to secure a better next life.

This view discourages them from seeking help and making necessary changes to alleviate suffering now. Worse, this mindset has been exploited by unethical ‘Buddhists’ for personal gain.

2. Justifying Escapism

Some misuse Buddhist concepts to justify escapism. They call their escapism “letting go” or “detachment”. With that, they avoid difficult conversations, withdraw from relationships, or neglect personal responsibility—creating a false sense of peace.

3. Avoiding Painful Emotions

Some misunderstand and misuse meditation or chanting to avoid painful emotions—grief, anger, or fear. They don’t learn how to face these emotions so that they can truly be liberated from them. The funny things is, what they try to bypass are the very things they need to understand for their freedom.

4. Chasing ‘Spirituality’ Over Real Transformation

Some meditators become fixated on attaining enlightenment or some kind of transcendent states of consciousness—while neglecting grounded, real-world change. They assume meditation alone will solve their problems, leading to disconnection from daily life.

5. Intellectualizing Buddhism

Some engage with Buddhism only intellectually—studying scriptures and talk about concepts like impermanence, emptiness, or non-self. This distracts them from understanding themselves, leaving them with mere theoretical knowledge rather than transformative insight.

6. Cultivating a ‘Spiritual Ego’

In their spiritual pursuit, some develop a sense of superiority, believing they’re more “advanced” than others. This not only creates barriers in relationships but also hinders spiritual growth.

Parting Words

True spiritual growth requires confronting reality—including our negative tendencies, struggles, and emotional wounds. Without this, practice remains shallow and unfulfilling. Approach Buddhism with humility, self-awareness, and compassion. Only then can it lead to genuine freedom.

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