I Found a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Some months ago, a woman I had met only a few times (let’s call her MC) told another woman, “Did you notice that when Bhante spoke to you just now, he seemed to have some opinion against you?”

The next morning, the other woman (who had been my main supporter for over a year; let’s call her CC) came to ask me if what MC said was true. I was perplexed. I recalled merely agreeing to CC asking to borrow something. How could that be interpreted as me having an opinion against her?

I told her no and asked, “Did it seem to you like I had any opinion against you?” She said it didn’t seemed that way to her either. Then she added that MC had also said something against two other women. To keep it simple, MC claimed those women had done something to hurt CC. Knowing those two women fairly well, I found the story nonsensical and completely out of character for them.

“That friend of yours is dangerous!” I said.

“Actually, I don’t know her very well. I only got closer to her recently.”

“I think you’d better stay away from her.”

After that, I began investigating—sharing what had happened with others and asking about their experiences with MC. It turned out she had been poisoning people’s minds with lies, making them mistrust one another.

Having gathered enough information, I believed that MC had Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), which I partly wrote about in Beware of Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing: Protect Yourself from Hidden Personality Disorders.

The next time I went online, I saw a message from MC on Messenger. She claimed to be having an emotional reaction to a current situation, which was bringing up painful memories of the past—something she said she didn’t want to repeat. With my experience helping people with emotional issues, I immediately sensed something off. It was clear she was trying to manipulate me. I blocked her immediately and rejected her application for my retreat.

Some days later, CC told me MC had called her, saying she wanted to beg for my forgiveness. I didn’t take the bait.

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