Respectful Exorcism: The Ghost Who Needed a Nudge

In 2009, I went with some monks to a house that had been haunted for four years after a man died there.

The occupants reported that cupboard doors would open and close on their own. A light dimmer would adjust itself. A strong smell of hospital chemicals remained in the bathroom. And, a relative of the deceased was slapped on the butt by something unseen.

After we did some chanting, I gave a talk to the departed man (who apparently hadn’t really departed), telling him that the living occupants were afraid, and explaining how clinging is painful and letting go is happiness.

A few days later, I asked the woman who invited us there about the situation, and again weeks later. Both times, she reported that things had turned fine.

Interesting, isn’t it? I like this way of dealing with spirits: with respect.

Note: This is not an advertisement for exorcist services.


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